最近武汉大学的《恋爱心理学》讲座爆发了,小教室容纳不了学生对知识(恋爱)的渴望。
来晚了的同学们一度爬上窗台,蹲在走廊上,满教室门口。"我排队拿着爱情的号码牌.".一起感受到了这种身临其境的恋爱。
a lecture on love has become wildly popular in Wuhan university recently,With phh
《对爱情的渴望》
这次被炸的讲座由武汉大学哲学学院心理学系教授刘丰教授授课。他平时经常进行积极心理学研究,以“大学生日常生活中也很关心爱情”为由,将爱情心理学搬到了教室。
The beauty of love ',presented by professor Yu feng from the school of philosophy,ignited students ' passion for knowledge by apphy
刘风老师说,学生们意外的热情让他感到惊讶。“对恋爱的渴望,对心理学知识的渴望,当然是对我个人的鼓励。”
the popularity of the class reflects students ' longing for love and eagerness for psychological knowledge,' said Yu。' for me '
看到首钢场面如此火爆,武汉大学一再提醒:知识很好,但也要注意安全。
怎么样才能健康的恋爱?
请谈谈健康的恋爱,开始并保持积极的关系。是刘丰老师开设讲座的初衷。(大卫亚设)。
the purpose of the class is to help college students understand what goes behind a healthy,romantic relationship。
讲座以爱情心理学的基本理论为主,结合恋爱过程——,寻找、开始、结束、维持大象,揭开了“爱情”的面纱。
具体来说,“爱是什么”,接近其他种类的爱。“为什么要爱”从生理和心理层面解释了爱情的萌芽。“为什么爱”,共同探索相互吸引的唯一规律。《爱的方法》、《识别、追求、维持、分手》、《积极》贯穿了恋爱的全过程。
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l theory, the lecture aims to answer important questions about love — what it is, why it occurs and how to go about it, in a progressive manner.据武汉大学微信公众号介绍,喻丰老师把健康的恋爱关系定义为“两人都能照顾到对方而不是自私的,都为自己和对方的二元关系考虑,有亲密的感觉又有互相的承诺,还能一直保有最初的感觉”。
According to the university's official WeChat account, Yu's definition of healthy love is selfless interaction between the couple; with both sides enjoying and maintaining intimate feelings in line with mutual commitment, unlike the fading of an initial crush.
真正的爱意不是纯粹的感性,“它不应该是基于廉价感动进行冲动选择后的认知失调。某种程度上,爱也是互相适应、互相迁就、互相妥协,它是相互成全而非一味付出或者收获”。
True love, however, isn't cognitive dissonance as a result of being emotionally moved. In some ways, it should involve two-way adaptation, compromise and achievement.
针对同学们的恋爱困惑,喻老师也提出了一些“防病”小妙招(tips on how to eschew a toxic relationship),帮助大家收获甜甜的爱情。
❶ 识别和拒绝消极关系,拒绝PUA!
Stay away from gaslighting, or being manipulated by your counterpart
❷ 保持相互之间的了解,要保持通畅而有实质性的沟通
Keep effective communication to know more about your loved one
❸ 扩大社交圈,寻找真正让你心动的人
Extend your social circle to find your real love
有幸挤进了课堂的同学们表示,听完课想谈恋爱了,不少网友更是纷纷“催更”,预约下一期。
"In addition to lecturing on theories, he uses lively cases and plenty of visual tools. I like his course more than other professors' classes."
除了会用幽默风趣的语气讲解恋爱心理学知识外,也会穿插有趣好笑的例子和GIF动图,比平时上的课有趣多了!
部分同学课后也开启了深刻的思考……
"I've learned to understand love in a different mindset. Most people perceive love via their feelings, but his class told us to approach it through psychology. The most important thing for lovers is to seek common ground because it can raise their level of communication."
从不一样的角度去看待爱情问题。大部分人在日常生活中对爱的感知就是情绪上的感受与思维上的考量,但是当我们从学术化的角度对情形进行分析的时候,从心理学角度去看待感性的爱情,我们已经是理论中人了。
目前,全国多所高校已开设“恋爱心理”相关课程,并受到学生们追捧。对感情和性的认识不能仅停留在生理卫生知识层面,用科学理性的方式打开一段亲密关系,你准备好了吗?
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编辑:焦洁、陈月华、丹妮
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